{"id":9904,"date":"2018-09-19T07:41:37","date_gmt":"2018-09-19T14:41:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/redshoezone.ca\/?p=9904"},"modified":"2025-12-22T01:33:26","modified_gmt":"2025-12-22T09:33:26","slug":"flaw-some-is-the-new-way-to-be","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ohmywordjournal.com\/redshoezone\/flaw-some-is-the-new-way-to-be\/","title":{"rendered":"Flaw-some is the new way to BE"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ladies, give yourself permission to be flaw-some.<\/em><\/p>\n

Flaw-some?<\/em><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s a combination of awesome and flawed and celebrates how beautifully imperfect you are.<\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s a tough call for the perfectionists among us. \u00a0The word \u2018flawed\u2019 causes immediate intestinal distress and involuntary sweating.<\/p>\n

Tell me about it. I\u2019m a perfectionist in recovery.<\/p>\n

While perfectionism was the driver behind a list of \u2018accomplishments\u2019 in my life it didn\u2019t bode well in my relationships as I strove to be the perfect mother, friend, partner, and daughter.<\/p>\n

I did get a lot done<\/em> mind you. \u00a0I basked in what I took as compliments, \u201cYou are aaaamazing\u2026. look at you go\u2026 I have no idea how you do what you do\u2026 never in a million years could I do this.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n

Hindsight is everything and looking back I can clearly see it.<\/p>\n

The ONE word that consistently popped up.<\/h2>\n

Do.<\/p>\n

I was always doing<\/em> instead of being.<\/em><\/p>\n

All the doing was leaving me far too exhausted to hear properly, think rationally or see clearly.<\/p>\n

The reality was\u2026<\/h2>\n

I had zero time for myself and barely enough time for the things that mattered most in my life, but hey when you\u2019re that amazing you have a standard to uphold.<\/p>\n

But like all good illusions it had to crack. Crack it did about 10 years ago when I fell into what felt like a dark hole. Unfamiliar and foreign. How the heck did I <\/em>get here?<\/p>\n

For those of us who struggle with perfectionism we often have to hit bottom and break apart to find a more compassionate, kinder way forward.<\/p>\n

It took a while to figure this mess out.<\/h2>\n

In my case perfectionism was driven by fear of not being good enough. My unconscious mind found a clever way to take care of business. It figured if I just tried harder and did more, then everything would be ok.<\/p>\n

It made sense.<\/p>\n

I mean if I was that busy doing<\/em> then I wouldn\u2019t have a single second to feel vulnerable or harbor any negative thoughts about myself. But perfectionism is the harshest of critics so the more I did, the more it directed me to do. It never was enough.<\/p>\n

A nasty cycle.<\/p>\n

Clawing my way out of the dark hole I started to talk honestly about my struggle (something this perfect person had never done). And my flaws? Without the mask of constant doing and accomplishment they were on permanent display.<\/p>\n

I had immediate feedback and it wasn\u2019t what I was expecting. Family and friends said they liked me better this way. They found me (of all things) more lovable as my vulnerable self.<\/p>\n

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As my flaw-some self I was more lovable.<\/p><\/div>\n

Love\u2026\u2026 wasn\u2019t this what I was always chasing as my perfect self?<\/p>\n

A-HA!<\/h2>\n

I saw that perfectionism didn\u2019t allow for flaws. Yet it was those flaws that made me human, authentic, relatable, real and most importantly loveable.<\/p>\n

So, I coined a new word.<\/p>\n

Flaw-some (as mentioned above) a combination of awesome and flawed. And it was my goal to be<\/em> this every day.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not going to tell you it was easy because it took a good year (and regular reminders to this day) to learn to love this vulnerable version of myself. But when I do, I find a peace that had always alluded me and time for the things that matter most.<\/p>\n

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Being flaw-some allows me to take deep breaths and find a peace that had always alluded me.<\/p><\/div>\n

Your turn\u2026.<\/h2>\n

Flaw-some will likely feel uncomfortable especially at first so take small steps.<\/p>\n

Worth a try tho’. The payoff is big.<\/p>\n

Leave a comment and share your thoughts.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re up for it, I\u2019d love to hear how it\u2019s going.<\/p>\n

For Your Further Consideration<\/h2>\n

After being flaw-somed<\/em> \u2013 try wabi-sabi<\/a>. It\u2019s the Japanese practice of celebrating imperfection. It helps up look at life, personal struggle, and physical objects form a clear, mindful and non-judgmental perspective. Just another little way to love yourself up.<\/p>\n

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