{"id":2315,"date":"2013-08-13T06:55:37","date_gmt":"2013-08-13T13:55:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/redshoezone.ca\/?p=2315"},"modified":"2016-04-16T13:47:10","modified_gmt":"2016-04-16T20:47:10","slug":"mothers-relearn-putting-self-first","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ohmywordjournal.com\/redshoezone\/mothers-relearn-putting-self-first\/","title":{"rendered":"Mothers (re)learn putting self first"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Hey Ladies&#8230;it&#8217;s our turn!<\/em><\/p>\n<p>As mothers we\u2019re used to putting everyone\u2019s needs ahead of our own. With joyful hearts we slip into last place, working to help fulfill a dream\u2026create an opportunity\u2026.provide a chance. Nothing could make us happier, it feeds the nurturing soul.<\/p>\n<p><b>STOP <\/b>\u2013 that was <i>then<\/i> this is<i> now\u2026\u2026.<\/i> welcome to Life Part II.<\/p>\n<p>Kids are grown and launched it\u2019s time to claim top spot and become all we were meant to be!<\/p>\n<p>That could mean going back to school, reviving a long lost passion, starting a business, switching career paths or (you name it) \u00a0it\u2019s time to \u00a0accept the opportunities and abundance all around us and dream! Unless, of course, putting self last has become a kind of a comfort zone.<\/p>\n<p><i>\u201cIf I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?\u201d\u00a0<\/i>Maya Angelou<\/p>\n<p>Ugh. Are we holding ourselves back? Is fear, guilt, feelings of unworthiness and our own (misplaced) comfort zones stopping us from realizing our full potential?<i> Hmmmmmm<\/i>. Do you see yourself in any of points below? I did. These are signs we not ready to move into first and open to receive the abundance flowing our way.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You say I can\u2019t, I\u2019m afraid, I\u2019m not good enough, I\u2019m too old<\/li>\n<li>You don\u2019t ask for your needs to be met even though others are willing to meet them<\/li>\n<li>You find accepting compliments difficult<\/li>\n<li>You take a back seat because you\u2019re afraid of being seen and heard<\/li>\n<li>You think of why something can\u2019t be done<\/li>\n<li>You see the cup half empty instead of overflowing.<\/li>\n<li>You insist on doing everything yourself and waving off help (me)<\/li>\n<li>You want everything \u00a0to be perfect(me)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><i>\u201cI believe that the most important single thing, beyond discipline and creativity is daring to dare.\u201d\u00a0<\/i>Maya Angelou<\/p>\n<p>Ok\u2026Maya Angelou you\u2019re ON\u2026.I (for one) have work to do. Here\u2019s how I\u2019m going to facilitate my move into top spot and receive all opportunities headed my way!<\/p>\n<p><b>Be Bold and Daring<\/b> &#8211; Remind myself of what a stranger said to me 18 months ago (reread own words <a href=\"https:\/\/ohmywordjournal.com\/redshoezone\/red-shoe-project\/my-story\/\">Be Bold Be Daring<\/a>) <a href=\"https:\/\/ohmywordjournal.com\/redshoezone\/red-shoe-project\/my-story\/\"><br \/>\n<\/a><\/p>\n<p><b>Don\u2019t be afraid to fail<\/b> \u2013 I always told my daughter to celebrate failure(s) because it told her she was one step closer to success (revisit own words)<\/p>\n<p><b>Expect great things<\/b> \u2013 (I <i>know<\/i> this) \u2026 expectation leads to excitement and watchfulness\u2026opportunities present left, right and center.<\/p>\n<p><b>Say YES &#8211;<\/b>(<a href=\"https:\/\/ohmywordjournal.com\/redshoezone\/just-say-yes\/\">Yes! Yes! Yes!<\/a> say no more) <a href=\"https:\/\/ohmywordjournal.com\/redshoezone\/just-say-yes\/\"><br \/>\n<\/a><\/p>\n<p><b>Give to others<\/b> \u2013 Generosity opens a door to a steady flow of goodness and worth<\/p>\n<p><b>Release the need to be perfect <\/b>&#8211; (Note to self) \u00a0Get out of own way!<\/p>\n<p><b>Cultivate wonder<\/b> \u2013 Be curious and willing to be delighted\u2026say <a href=\" https:\/\/ohmywordjournal.com\/redshoezone\/how-to-have-a-wonder-ful-life\/\">OH WOW<\/a> often. <a href=\"https:\/\/ohmywordjournal.com\/redshoezone\/how-to-have-a-wonder-ful-life\/\"><br \/>\n<\/a><\/p>\n<p><b>Keep going<\/b> \u2013 Faithfully put one foot in front of the other. \u00a0Every little step outside the comfort zone expands growth, life, opens the flood gates to abundance and clears the way to top spot.<\/p>\n<p><b>Believe in yourself and your dreams<\/b> &#8211; Don\u2019t<i> ever<\/i> underestimate your abilities and strengths. If doubt creeps in take advise from Kathlyn Hendricks PHD (author of Conscious Loving and The Conscious Heart), <i>\u201c<\/i><i>The best way to shake free of negative thoughts is to make the sound hmmm aloud. &#8220;It&#8217;s impossible to criticize yourself when you&#8217;re making that sound,&#8221; she says. &#8220;Follow it up with a question: Hmmm, I wonder if I can&#8230;.Hmmm\u2026what do I need to know?\u201d The answers will often launch you into new territory. \u201c<\/i><\/p>\n<p>There are infinite possibilities, opportunities and blessings awaiting us!<\/p>\n<p>It is our destiny to become all we were meant to be. We are worthy and deserving of top spot!<\/p>\n<p>Claim it!<\/p>\n<span class=\"et_bloom_bottom_trigger\"><\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hey Ladies&#8230;it&#8217;s our turn! As mothers we\u2019re used to putting everyone\u2019s needs ahead of our own. 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